"That Time Is Mine" — Setting Boundaries For Your Wellness Practice

Carving out uninterrupted time for your personal wellness practice can be a challenge. Life happens in the best of times, and when it gets even busier, it’s easy for it to fall by the wayside. When you’re in a partnership, it can be even harder to set boundaries and prioritise a bit of time for yourself. By getting into the habit of telling your other half (and family members) about your “no matter what” time in the day that is yours, the quality of your life can change quite drastically. Morning “me time” will also ground and energise you before starting the day more formally. For this reason, I’ve created a four week plan for you and your partner to set gradual wellness practice boundaries, in a bid for you to grow stronger as two individuals making up a single, solid team.

Week 1: Early To Bed, Early To Rise

If you are a busy professional, give yourself permission to go to bed a little earlier, and to regulate your sleeping patterns a bit. Good health and wellness first and foremost starts with good sleep. After a long day of work, you might be tempted to watch Netflix until 1am. Put those kinds of ideas on ice for now. Ahead of the beginning of a new week, set an intention that you will be going to be earlier, and getting up after sleeping no more than 7 or 8 hours. If you live with a partner, tell them about it too, and encourage them to try the same. No matter what, for the whole week, go to bed at the same time, and get up at the same time every day.

Week 2: 20 Minutes of “Me Time”

Once you’re in the groove of going to bed at a fixed time (and your body is starting to thank you for it with improvements in your overall mood), start the new week by waking up 20 minutes earlier for dedicated “me time”. Use this time to do something to start the day on the right note, like taking part in a short meditation, journaling or beginning a gratitude practice. There are no major rules for what you should do, but make sure that it’s something that helps you to start the day feeling more present and in tune with yourself. The main requirement for this time is that you tell anybody else in the house that you are unavailable during this time (no lingering bed cuddles for now, I’m afraid). Also make sure your phone isn’t anywhere near you to distract you as the rest of the world starts waking up.

Week 3: 30 Minutes of “Me Time”

After a full week of consistent “me time” and some much needed space to do something for yourself, increase the time from twenty to thirty minutes. Keep your bedtime consistent, but wake up 30 minutes earlier than you were last month. Continue exploring new things to do with this special time in the morning. If you can keep at least one activity consistent (like writing in a gratitude journal for five minutes), your body will start to lean into the new rhythm with more ease. By the end of this week, you should start to feel a lot more grounded, and begin to reap the rewards of having your own self care practice even while still in a loving partnership with a special someone. Hopefully they are as committed to the process as you are too!

Week 4: Build Momentum With a Check-In

Heading into the conclusion of your “that time is mine” boundary-setting month, it may be useful for you to talk to someone about the process, and the ways you can continue generating momentum as time goes on. Holistic health coaching presents a great opportunity to do so, and across my sessions I check in with singles and couples about ways to keep learning, keep staying curious, and most importantly, help them to stay accountable to their goals. Regular check-in’s can also be useful for long-term intention setting with regards to your mental, physical and spiritual health. All that’s left to say now is good luck — keep going — and I look forward to touching base with you soon.